Content Creator Tu Shares Modern Parenting Philosophy
Content creator Tu Phophot shares his modern parenting philosophy that avoids physical punishment and screen time, focusing instead on teaching discipline through calm conversations and making responsibilities fun. He balances work commitme
Content creator Tu Phophot opens up about his modern parenting style on MY DADDY James, explaining his approach that avoids physical punishment and screen-based childcare while instilling discipline and responsibility. He stresses that a parent's role is not to force children to be smart, but to equip them with tools for living so they grow with quality and happiness in their own way.
When asked if his social media persona matches real life, Tu admits it's challenging. "When I play with them, I play fully so my daughter knows my main job is playing—it seems easy, but it's actually tiring," he says. With heavy work commitments, he can't always supervise like his wife does. His younger child loves crafts while his older one prefers action activities like swinging or biking. "They have completely different interests. The challenge isn't about playing, but how I can divide myself to play with both."
The children sometimes play together, though they often diverge to separate activities. Tu notes that he and his wife take different parenting modes—he focuses on serious matters and important lessons, while she handles daily discipline like brushing teeth. When addressing misbehavior, Tu waits for the right moment rather than scolding immediately. "If I scold right away, they become resistant. They get more afraid than willing to listen. I teach them when they've calmed down, and the best time is before bed when we talk together."
Their responses to discipline differ. His older daughter once brought candy to show her mother, wanting to eat it despite her loose tooth. Tu's tone may have seemed harsh when he discouraged her, upsetting her. He clarified he thought she wanted to eat it immediately, and she apologized, explaining she just wanted to show her mother. His younger son finds cleanup exhausting compared to playtime. Tu tries to make chores fun rather than punishing, though he admits it's frustrating when they don't comply. "There's disappointment in trying not to scold or hit, but when they don't listen after being asked, sometimes I think, 'never mind, I'll clean it myself.' But I know that won't work—if I let it slide now, it'll happen again next time." His older child pushes back more than the younger one.